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How Slowing Down Levels Up Your Game

Updated: Sep 26, 2021


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We here in the United States are raised to believe that we need to hustle to get anywhere in life. Not only do we need to hustle, but we need to do it as fast as possible. The famous quote from Talladega Nights “If you’re not first, you’re last” comes to mind. Everyone is always in such a hurry to do even the most mundane tasks. We scream at our phones for not loading a website in under a few seconds. We tap our feet and cross our arms when we have to wait more than a minute in a line at the store. We honk our car horns at the person in front of us after the light just turned green. No one seems to know how to just chill and go with the flow. What if some idiot ran that light and took out that innocent person in front of you, or YOU for that matter? Creatives, like my husband and I, destroy ourselves for hours, days, and weeks trying to force inspiration in their art, music, and business. When we rush, when we force anything to go a way that it is not ready to, we are met with resistance. Resistance is powerful stuff. You can feel it in your body, in your chest with tension and short breaths. This is stress and we’re doing it to ourselves all. The. Time. This is not the way, people. The advancements we’ve made in technology have especially made the process of instant gratification especially potent and have, honestly, weakened our ability to be present. Anything we want is at our fingertips, in an instant. This has weakened us immensely.

We’ve completely forgotten how to tune in with ourselves, our own natural rhythms, and also, with nature. If you want to see how to really be reliable and get things done, just look at how Mother Nature works her magic. She forces nothing. Everything happens at the time it’s supposed to. And when it happens, it’s beautiful and it’s perfect. Right around the time I had my Starseed awakening, I realized just how much I love inspiring others to live authentically ( it’s also when the idea for this blog and podcast was conceived! ) and I started playing around with the idea of becoming a life coach some day. Not a life coach that just helps CEOs and “Boss Moms” find the time to check all of their boxes every day. I mean a transformational coach who helps people that are experiencing existential spiritual crises and are ready to heal deep wounds and become who they were always meant to be. So I started reading a great book called “A Shift In Being: The Art And Practices Of Deep Transformational Coaching” by Leon Vanderpol. It has taught me so much when it comes to truly helping others and its chapter “Slow It All down And Sync With the Rhythm Of Life And Spirit” helped inspire this blog you’re reading right now. I read the chapter while on lunch at work and decided, “Okay, today I’m going to slow it all down and sync with my natural rhythm”. It was a game changer.

I’m usually in a pretty big rush when I get home. I won’t even get into if I’m making a quick run to the grocery store for beets 😹. My dog, Orion, is always waiting to go outside, so I walk him for about 15 minutes, then I rush to take a quick shower so I have enough time to meditate for 20-30 minutes and spend time with my tarot and oracle cards. But today, I made a commitment and I was sticking to it. As I am one to practice the things I am learning to teach, ( as well as the things that you could say I preach ) I listened to my True Self the moment I finished that chapter.

I pulled up to my apartment and I thought, “I’m going to walk this adorable dog and I’m going to enjoy it and not rush it. I’m going to walk him like I have all the time in the world because I do.” So I got home, I got some lavender tea ready ( I tend to ritualize everything I do. We’ll talk more about that in another post! ), and I walked Orion.

I’m enjoying this walk. I’m not aggravated by Orion’s need to be the center of everyone’s attention or him fake peeing on things. He is the epitome of a doggy diva, by the way. I’m taking in the soft wind, the sky, the trees, the sun, and the freedom I have to do these things ( and the fact I am blessed to have such a cute dog. JUST LOOK AT HIM! ).


Then a voice says that I’m gonna put on some chill music in the shower. “Yea definitely!” I say out loud, super pumped. The same voice tells me to go take a break at the dog park. Ok! We need to enjoy every moment, and rushing everything we do is pretty much the opposite of that. So, I get back to my apartment and put on some really chill music while I took my shower. Then, something interesting happened in my first day to mindfully slow down. I grabbed my lavender tea, sat long ways on my couch facing the creek in back, and just gazed at the trees. The sun hitting the tops in certain places was so golden and beautiful. The gentle waves from the wind made them sway so elegantly, like they were dancing just for me. They almost looked like my protectors. OUR protectors. And they looked like they were gazing back at me the way people do at babies. Full of unconditional love and wonder. I realized, I really like this slowing down thing.

I do what I can during the week for my wellness. Sometimes I get too caught up in routine, feeling like I HAVE to do whatever it is, and I forget to listen to my heart and mind. I forget to tune in to my natural rhythms. And also, when we rush and force things, especially when we think we HAVE to do them, we don’t enjoy them anymore. We get burnt out. We lose that passion for the thing we love so much. Usually, when we wait for the right time ( just like Mother Nature ) our endeavors happen effortlessly. No force. And we get to spend more time just enjoying life. Enjoying each and every moment of this amazing life. So this day, my day of slowing it all down, I had a conversation with myself; “Oh, I don’t have time for a 30 minute meditation? Can only do 15? No problem! 10? All good. What if I don’t feel like meditating? What if I want to dance to some Peruvian pan flutes or just write in my journal?” You do what you are AMPED about. You do what makes your soul get set on fire. THAT is plugging in to the cosmic universe. THAT is tapping into higher frequencies. And THAT is what you are supposed to do.

An ex friend of mine, who wanted to do a podcast together about occultism, was getting angry with me because I hadn’t come up with any good ideas for the name of the show. Mind you, I’m the kind of person who takes days, even weeks, to name a new pet or a character in a video game. I said I was waiting for the inspiration to hit. I will never forget what this guy said. He said, “Writers don’t wait for inspiration.” And all I could think of was, “Dude, have you never heard of “Writer’s Block?” To this day I’m laughing. But I digress. Have you ever just stopped and watched an insect just chilling? I had an experience one night, right when I first turned vegan, and there was a HUGE fly buzzing around in my bedroom. It was loud and annoying and I really didn’t want to swat it to death, but I had to get up at 4:30 for work. It landed on my lamp and I just stared at it. It was actually really cool looking. The way its eyes kind of looked and moved everywhere. The way it rubbed it “hands” together almost schemingly as it cleaned itself. It was a little dude just living. I thought “well, they don’t live long really. I’ll let it do it’s thing.” So I turned the light off. And guess what? I guess he went to sleep too, because I didn’t hear any buzzing. I let him be. I let myself be. And instead of panicking that the noise from it flying around would keep me up all night, I let go and it all worked out. Did I digress again? I think it’s still relevant.

When you slow things down and allow yourself to just be, we gain clarity and insight. We connect to the true us, to our Higher Self. Our Higher Self knows exactly what we need and exactly how to get it. But you have to listen. You have to SLOW THE F DOWN AND LISTEN. Did you hear that clearly? Slow. Down. We are here to enjoy and experience these physical bodies, these physical relationships, this physical planet. Stop with the hustle mentality. What we are supposed to do, what we are meant to do, will happen AND it will happen naturally. There will be no force. Slow down, guys. Your body, mind, heart, and spirit will thank you.



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