In the seemingly never ending quest to maintain a high frequency, vibration, positive, manifesting mindset ( whatever you choose to call it. ) , there is always something that likes to come along and throw hornets into your shiny castle. Every once in a while, little traps and pitfalls seem to be laid out in perfect and unsuspecting places that you can easily fall into if you’re not careful. Before you know it, you’re obsessing all day over something so ridiculously unimportant, you can’t even believe how you ever managed to reach any kind of spiritual breakthroughs before.
It doesn’t seem like a big deal at first. You read a headline or a tweet, form opinions about someone you don’t personally know, then BOOM! Off to the races! Before you know it, you’re looking for validation from strangers about your strong opinion concerning this person or situation you just can’t stop thinking about.
I’ve got some bad news, dear. You’ve just gotten involved in gossip, and gossip is super low vibe. You have just lowered your frequency, and now, it’s going to take some hard work to get it back to where it needs to be.
This very thing happened to me just a few weeks ago when I got back from a beautiful nature-filled vacation in Arkansas. It’s pretty silly, but it happened.
For whatever reason, I found myself on Twitter. Who knows why. I caught a glimpse of the trending topics and something caught my attention ; One of my favorite comedians, John Mulaney, just knocked up an actress who is most definitely not his wife.
“Oh my god! Whaaaaaat?!” I yelled inside my head. I couldn’t believe it.
“What happened with him and his artsy Jewish wife and their French bulldog, Petunia? He just got out of rehab?! What happened? What was he doing? Of all people to get involved with, he picks Olivia Munn?! Bad idea, bro!”
I found myself hours deep into this unbelievable and saucy scandal, completely neglecting the music, art, and writing I planned on doing that day. I was sucked into gossip and it was so bad. I knew it was bad because it felt bad. It was not enjoyable. It might feel fun at first, but it’s just bad energy disguised as entertainment ( more like entrapment if you ask me 😒) and it only serves to keep you distracted from your own life and goals. Gossip of this caliber usually leads to judgement also, and that’s another thing that doesn’t deserve a place in our lives.
Just think about how you get sucked into these stories. They make you focus on people and situations that are completely outside of you and have nothing to do with you. It takes your focus away from yourself and your own journey and well-being. If you’re going to read or watch something, let it feed and nourish your spirit in a way that encourages growth. Your energy is precious. Treat it like money. Where you decide to spend your energy will determine how you feel mentally, spiritually, AND physically. If it doesn’t feel the soul, take it off the payroll.
At some point, I picked my spirit back up, dusted it off, and promised we wouldn’t be doing any of this again. Now when I see a headline, like the one about Justin Bieber comforting his wife on some red carpet event or whatever, I acknowledge that I saw it and think, “yea alright, and why should I care?” This is between them, and these are two people who literally are not even in the same reality as me anyways. And really, all this attention they get is probably why they’re so fucked up in the first place. They can’t even focus on who they are. That’s actually putting too much effort into it. I see it, immediately know it’s garbage for my soul, and proceed to move on. I suggest you do the same.